The mail is full of things to do...things for all "third
age" adults, things for some "third age" adults
and events for everyone. Sit down for a few minutes and think
what you would like to do, what you can afford to do, and where
you can get tied into it. Don't give up living because the doctor
has told you have a problem of one kind or another. Go to the
library and see what you can find out about your problem, its
limitations, and put aside the old-wives tales of what you have
been told about how you need to stay home and baby yourself.
Then do what it takes to live with it and enjoy life.
There are limitations, but the truth of the matter is that those
with a chronic condition tend to live with it, work with or against
it (as required) and as a result, live much longer and much happier
than those who give up.
As a reminder, the life span of all of us (but particularly women)
has expanded. Living beyond retirement takes real thought and
planning. The money we get at retirement is what we will have
the rest of our lives, except for the pitiful Social Security
Cost of Living Adjustment, which can be eaten up in rental and
taxes, let alone the constant increase in the cost of everything
Because we will feel the pinch in the future we need to take
a hard look at what we have, how we use it, set up a budget that
allows a little freedom for things we want, look for part time
work if that is a possibility.
I am well aware that many of us should have started a long time
ago to arrange these later years, and that almost every plan
seems unsurmountable. However, there are many ways we can enjoy
our lives if we look for those ways.
In my work at the Senior Center, I see so many who have very
little money but are having a fine time enjoying senior center
activities, accepting help from their children without feeling
guilty, who have a smile on their faces in spite of serious chronic
illness or responsibilities of disabled children or grandchildren
or ill spouses. Many are active in their churches and in their
neighborhoods, volunteer their time for non-profit agencies in
lieu of cash donations, and accept the benefits available with
But there are also many who are ready to die tomorrow. They can't
cope with the Dial-A-Ride, the world is against them, they are
paying too much for rent and utilities but will not consider
moving into Senior Housing, who can't keep their vital papers
together so they can get benefits. These poor souls recount their
ailments, set-backs, and annoyances over and over, forgetting
that we all have problems and we don't all use those problems
as a reason to stop living.
I do not know all the answers for people but when you are living
into the nonagenarian years, it is smart to set up those years
as soon as possible, understanding that you will be joined by
many others as life goes on.
On Tuesday, September 15, from ll am to 7 pm at the New Haven
Veterans Memorial Coliseum, the second Gadgets and Electronics,
an Assistive Technology Trade Fair, will take place.The entrance
fee is $5, but free tickets are available, although there may
still be a parking charge.
Absolutely everything that can make life easier will be on display
with people there to tell you where it can be had. Be prepared
to ask questions, try out equipment, watch demonstrations and
even to buy appropriate devices on the spot.
Call 424-4871 to ask about the free tickets and directions to
If you can't get to the above display, visit Evis Medical Supplies,
283 Franklin Avenue in Hartford. Ask for Anastasia, who will
listen to your problems and if the item that will help you is
not in stock, she will be happy to order it if it is made.
I have found her very helpful both for myself and for friends.
The store is open Monday through Friday. Closed on Saturday.
If getting there is a problem for you, call 296-3565 as they
For those of you who are interested in sports and concerned that
young people are not getting into programs, save the date of
Sunday, October l8 for an event at Chowder Pot Restaurant with
George Cruz, Doc Hurley and Bob Steele. Details in a future column.
Watch for it.
Need a little extra money? Why don't you call your Registrar
of Voters and see if they need you to help at the polls on election
day? It is a long day, but you meet interesting people, and feel
you are doing a valuable thing. The pay is excellent and they
can tell you all about it. Democrats ask for Tony Mein, Republicans
and Unaffiliated Voters ask for Joe Di Lorenzo. The number is
543-8585. The registrars are at City Hall, 550 Main St., Hartford.
Talk with you next issue.
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